Mental Health

My partner threatens to attempt suicide when I try to break up with them. Is this just a tactic to keep me from leaving?

Posted on 27 November 2010 by admin

One can never be sure if threatening suicide is a tactic or not. Whenever someone talks about attempting suicide, we need to take them seriously even if they have mentioned it many times before. You can encourage your partner to talk to a counselor in person or over the phone. Providing some resources where they can access information and get help can be very useful. The Manitoba Suicide Line (1-877-435-7170) is a great place to start, or check out the resource page.

We can be there for them but also have to meet our own needs. We all are really only responsible for our own life. If we are in a relationship that is harming us either physically or mentally, we have every right to leave it. If someone is threatening to hurt themselves in order to keep us in an unhealthy relationship, then this can be considered manipulative or emotionally abusive. Even if we decide to stay in the relationship, this does not mean that our partner won’t attempt suicide.

It’s important that you get the support you need as well. If someone is threatening suicide, talk to a trusted adult and try not deal with it all by yourself. If you are worried about someone thinking about or planning to kill themselves, you should never keep it a secret.  It’s not fair to the person feeling suicidal or to you to have to carry that around alone. Talking to a counselor or someone on a phone line can help you. Having someone close to you threatening suicide can be a difficult thing to go through and you don’t have to do it alone. Creating boundaries is healthy so that you have time and energy to take care of yourself.