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Sex can mean lots of different things to different people. It means physical pleasure involving genitals but it isn’t limited to that. Some common forms of sex are vagina and penis sex, vagina and vagina sex, penis and anus sex, and oral sex (mouth on penis, anus or vagina). Sex can also involve a sex toy as well. People can decide for themselves what they think “sex” is.

When someone talks about oral sex, vaginal sex or anal sex, they could actually be talking about different things. For example…

• oral sex (mouth and penis/vagina/anus)
• vaginal sex (eg. vagina and penis/vagina/sex toy)
• anal sex (eg. anus(bum) and penis/sex toy/mouth)

So really, sex can be defined in tons of different ways and how sex plays out is really up to people’s imagination. Folks can decide for themselves what they want to call “sex”. People may rub up against each other, stimulate each other with their hands or they may use sex toys.

What we know is that if two people have decided that they are ready to have sex and have talked about consent, what they are comfortable with, what they are interested in and what their limits & boundaries are, then they can figure out what works best for them.