Gender identity is how a person feels and how they know them self to be when it comes to their gender. There are more than two genders, even though in our society the genders that are most recognized are male and female and usually based on someone’s anatomy (the genitals they were born with). This is gender assignment and it is based on an assumption that someone’s genitals match their gender. However, gender isn’t about someone’s anatomy, it is about who they know them self to be. There are many different gender identities, including male, female, transgender, gender neutral, agender, pangender, genderqueer, two-spirit, third gender, and all, none or a combination of these.
There are many more gender identities then we’ve listed. Gender can be complex and people are defining themselves in new and different ways as we gain a deeper understanding of identities. Some terms may mean different things to different people. There are certain terms some folks may not like to use or call themselves and some terms that they may like to use or call themselves. If you’re not sure what to call a person, it’s best to ask the person what they would like to be called. It is always up to us to decide how we identify, and how we express our gender. However you decide or identify deserves to be respected and supported.
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Some (but not all) gender identity terms
Someone whose gender identity is different from the one they were assigned at birth might identify as transgender.
What do we mean assigned at birth? Think about one of the first things the doctor (or midwife) says when someone is born, “It’s a girl” or “It’s a boy.” This is gender assignment and it is based on an assumption that someone’s genitals match their gender. However, we know this isn’t always the case and that each of us gets to decide what gender we know our selves to be. It may not align with the genitals we are born with or be part of the gender binary (male-female). For example, someone may be born with a vagina but know themselves to be male.
- A modern English term that an Indigenous person might identify as that comes from the traditional knowledge of Indigenous people in Canada/Turtle Island/North America. It can mean a person who walks between genders; one who carries the gifts of both males and females, or one who is gender unique (not specific to any gender) and/or as a way to identify as LGBT2SQ+. When Europeans arrived in North America, they introduced homophobia and transphobia to many Indigenous nations and dishonoured the idea of what it means to be Two-Spirit. Today, many Indigenous People are reclaiming the ancient understanding that there are more than two genders.
- Cisgender is a term to describe someone who matches the gender they were assigned at birth. For example; they are born with a vagina and know themselves to be female.
- Someone may identify as genderqueer if their gender identity is neither male nor female, is between or beyond genders, or is some combination of genders. This identity is often related to or in reaction to the social construction of gender, gender stereotypes and the gender binary system.
- Gender fluid may refer to a gender which varies over time. They may fluctuate between genders or express multiple genders at the same time. Their gender may also vary at random or vary in response to different circumstances.
- Gender neutral
- Someone who feels they are neither male or female may identify as gender neutral.
Questions about Gender Identity
- What is a gender pronoun?
- A gender pronoun is the word someone uses to described their gender. The most common ones used in our society are she/her and him/he. However there are more pronouns, such as zi/hir or they. It is important to never assume which gender pronoun someone uses. If you aren’t sure what pronoun someone uses just ask them!
- I feel like I don't fit with any of these terms. What does that mean?
- Gender is a complex thing. We’ve only listed a few of the terms that people may use. We know that there are many other ways someone may define themselves and some people prefer to not label who they are at all. You get to decide who you know yourself to be and what (if anything) you like to be called.
- Are gender identity and sexual orientation the same thing?
- No, gender identity and sexual orientation are not the same thing. Gender identity is who someone knows themselves to be.
Sexual orientation is about attraction. Attraction is the combination of the physical and personality traits that happen to turn your crank. Someone may identify as trans and straight, or they may be trans and gay, or they may identity as something else.
Again, we each get to decide who we know ourselves to be and to crush on who we want.
- I'm dealing with transphobia. What can I do?
- We know that being the gender we know ourselves to be should be one of our basic rights. Sadly, in our society, people who identify as transgender or some other gender identity may deal with transphobia. Transphobia is a type of discrimination people may face when they do not identify as cisgender. It is never the fault of the person experiencing discrimination. Transphobia can be systemic, for example, having to choose between male or female washrooms or checking off ‘male or ‘female’ on an application form, or it can be in the form of verbal harassment and/or violence by individual people.
If you are dealing with transphobia it is important to talk with someone you trust. This could include a friend, teacher, parent or guidance counselor, who is non-judgemental and supportive of your identity. You could also contact the Rainbow Resource Centre which is a Winnipeg based support centre for LGBT2SQ+ people. They have information, counseling, and programs for youth. Contact them toll free at 1.855.437.8523 or 204.474.0212.